I came across this phrase somewhere when N was probably just 4m or so and it struck a real cord. We hadn’t gotten off to the easiest start and circumstances meant we’d fallen into some habits rather than choosing. Somehow reading this phrase knocked me back into a more proactive mode.
Since then I have felt much more that I am on a journey to becoming the parent I want to be, gradually getting closer every day. We don’t have to accept the circumstances life leaves us with. We can still choose and aim to get closer at the next step.